Showing that you respect the other person’s feelings, you value their friendship in relationship and marriage is important because it can help the union last longer.
Apologizing is a chance for you to be honest, humble, and act with integrity in the sight of your partner.
It is said, marriage and pride are enemies since a lot of relationships and marriages have collapsed because of pride.
However, many others don’t know the proper way to apologise to their partners but today’s lesson will serve as a guidance to couples or those who are in a relationship to render a proper apology to their partners.
HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE
1. ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG
Many grown-ups are not humble enough to admit to their fault. Will you mess up your love just because of your pride?
2. EXPLAIN WHY YOU DID WHAT YOU DID
Give the background sequence of events that led to you being on the wrong. A blank apology doesn’t address the issue
3. HEAR FROM YOUR PARTNER HOW HE/SHE FEELS
Allow your partner to vent, cry, shout, and tell you how much your actions/words pain him/her. Emotions and hurt shouldn’t be hidden if true reconciliation and healing are to occur. This also shows you care for your partner’s feelings
4. SAY SORRY
Let your partner hear you say those words, ‘I am sorry, please forgive me’
5. COMMIT TO NOT DOING IT AGAIN
Say you won’t repeat the mistake and mean it. An apology is empty if it’s not sincere
6. HEAR FROM YOUR PARTNER IF YOU ARE FORGIVEN
Get to hear your partner tell you ‘I forgive you’. It has to be official
7. THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR FORGIVING YOU
Appreciate the goodness of your partner’s heart to forgive you. It takes love to overlook your wrong, don’t take that for granted
8. AGREE ON A PLAN TO KEEP THE WRONG FROM BEING REPEATED
This is why it is important to know the history that led to you doing or saying wrong; you two get to agree on what to do to prevent it from happening again
9. SEAL IT WITH A KISS
Kiss as soon you are given an official forgiveness. Now that your partner has forgiven you, your lips will be well-received
10. MAKE LOVE
Your spouse’s heart feels safe because you care, you feel pardoned; make passionate love to bring you two even closer. Make-up sex
11. DO SOMETHING SWEET
Go out of your way to make your partner smile: leave a love note under the pillow, buy her flowers or a gift, cook his favourite meal, take a photo of the both of you happy and frame it, cater to each other.
